‘What made you to dump(divorse) him?’
‘His words. In each and every words i used to feel myself as humiliated. That was neither scold nor abuse, though hard to tolarate. The words used to be soft but disgracing my each feeling.
In the Neuro Hospital Pvt. Ltd. of Biratnagar, I got a chance to hear the above conversation. To listen them properly and clearly, I pretended myself as a reader holding newspaper in my hand.
‘Wasn’t your love marriage ?’
‘Yes. The life wouldn’t be like this if the marriage was arrange.’
‘A marriage long lives with strong understanding. In arrange, understanding starts with marriage while in love this ends with marriage.’ She added.
According to her, in love as guy and girl already knew to each other, so after marriage there is only time left for knowing each other’s disabilities(suddenly). While in arrange, as the both are totally new to each other, so it takes a long time to know each other understanding each other’s strongness and weakness slowly and slowly. So, the base becomes stronger in arrange than love. Research also shows that the divorse most of the case is from love marriage.
Was she actually correct ? Is arrange marriage more long lasting than love marriage. A lot of questions with puzzling answers forced me to head toward past where each love story got the history but lover’s life got tragedy. Laila Majhnu, Salim Anarkali got the title of tragedy king and queen. Was that due to love ? Do love always ends with cry/weep ?
What is love then ? If love is the world’s most beautiful and touchable word, then why it do link with such life where at the starting they(lovers) might be together but at the end they becomes like sides(banks) of river ????
“All is fair in love and war.” Matuk Nath Chaudhary, a professor of India, followed the above prove and started to live with his love Julie, his student, leaving behind his family. He got somewhere good clap due to his dedication toward love while in somewhere he was not only abused but also smeared as he ran away from his responsiblities. If his marriage life was in breakable condition, then it would be his duty to make it strong, rather not to break it and search another new one. What if, we all do such search of love leaving behind all our responsibilites ?????
Matuk Nath Chaudhary-was he a true lover or one who used the term love to cover his selfisness ???
The same case has been shown in ‘Kabhi Alvida Naa Kehana’, a Karan Johar film, where inspite of trying to make the relation with their life partners better in a true sense they(Shaharukh and Rani) do byheart only one word ‘Love’ forgetting a lot of words like responsibility, duty, trust, believe etc. etc.
Is love all about gaining only ? Is love a single word ? Doesn’t it come along with feeling, responsibility, respect, emotion, compromization etc. ????
A perfect defination of love i think ‘Krishna -the warrior’, a Subhash Ghai movie, has. Krishna(Bibek Oberai) fell in love with a blonde(english) girl, though he did marriage with an indian girl to do respect of love that she used to do toward him. He lived a happy married life with that indian girl but at the end of his breathe he desired to flow away his ash(अर्थी) in that bank(river) where he first felt that he was in love with the previous blonde girl. That’s the love in actual sense, a complete package of love that accumulate and accomodate each and every words that do link with love.
Love is in fashion nowadays. Without knowing what is love, people do fall in love because they want to fall in it. In true love no one knows that what is happening with him/her. After reaching in the depth of well, then he/she realizes that ‘I am in love’, not at the time before falling.
The true defination of love is vast and complex. So, attraction, influence etc. are taking advantage of it so that love can be defined in a ease and simple manner, and due to such, true love is nowadays is in shadow as attraction is replacing love.